October 25, 2011 in finding yourself
Sometimes what we really need is a third party to give us a deep reflection of ourselves. Like a professional mirror! This is what a
good therapist does.
When you share with people that you’ve done/do therapy, it can be kind of… awkward. Some people think therapy is for people who have mental illnesses or serious problems. In reality, therapy is a tool to be utilized for anyone who feels confused and feels they could benefit from some guidance. Personally, my biggest breakthroughs have been from therapy. How often do you get a persons’ full attention to help you better clearly see your self and patterns clearly? And a person who is extensively trained and has experience doing so?
It can be scary to just start talking to someone about your life, I know; but overcoming that first initial fear is totally worth it. A couple years ago, when I hadn’t done therapy for awhile, I got pretty nervous. I did some deep breathing to calm myself down. After my session, I felt like loads were off my shoulders (therapy tends to do that), and I realized how ridiculous the fear I had felt was. After all, fear is just illusion, and when you face your fears you realize how ridiculous it was.
And, honestly, I’m glad I get nervous before therapy. I should get nervous. What’s nervous? The ego is nervous. The ego is nervous to lose control. Therapy is one of the hardest and scariest work we can do, and my therapist knows it. I’ve seen comfort therapists before that don’t push me, don’t make me nervous, and these experiences feel like chatting rather than serious self-growth. I get nothing out of them.
So, my suggestion? If you feel like you could benefit from it, find yourself a therapist. A therapist who will push you, not one that will feed you sugar coated gumdrops.